10 Things Fearless Women Do

Fearless women — like they say, we all know one, raised one or are one. You can just feel a certain energy when a confident women walks into the room.  There is something so powerful and mysterious about a confident woman — she has a fascinating appeal to her.  A confident woman draws people towards her without even intending to do so.  What is it that is so intriguing and captivating about a confident woman? Here are 10 things we could learn from fearless women.

Confident woman standing in front of bookcase
  1. They live their own truth and make their own rules.
    • They are not afraid to go against societal norms regarding whether or when they should have children, get married or do things by a certain age, etc. They create their own timelines for themselves and do not feel the need to conform to societal standards.
  2. They are not afraid to take risks. 
    • They are not listening to others fears, also known as “background noise,” about why they cannot or should not do things. They have a bucket list of personal and career goals.  And they are constantly checking that list off one by one.
  3. They don’t second guess their decisions. 
    • They realize there are no right or wrong decisions.  They make the best decision available to them at the time based on the information they have.  Once they make their decision, they don’t look back.
  4. They invest in themselves. 
    • They realize their body is their temple and that is the only one they have.  They put their physical and mental health first.  They do not feel guilty taking care of themselves, whether it is going shopping, getting a haircut or relaxing with a massage. They realize they deserve it.
  5. They genuinely want others to succeed. 
    • At their very core, they want to see other people succeed.  They don’t need to put others down in order to make themselves look better. They already know their own self-worth.
  6. They don’t over or under apologize. 
    • They know when to own their actions.  They take responsibility for their actions.  However, they don’t apologize for being firm and assertive or standing up for what they believe in.
  7. They surround themselves with confident people. 
    • List your five closest friends.  This is a reflection of who you are.
  8. They know when to walk away. 
    • Whether this is in business or relationships, they know when to walk away.  They recognize when they are giving too much of themselves and when the relationship is either toxic or no longer serving them.  Most importantly, they realize when they are not getting a good return on investment. 
  9. They own their truth. 
    • Whether this is done in therapy or through other spiritual means, strong women are not afraid to seek their own truth.  They have done the work necessary to look within themselves, face their fears and accept that the past does not have to dictate their future.
  10. They believe they are worthy. 
    • Whether it is for a job promotion, in love or for their health etc., they genuinely believe deep down that they are worthy of receiving.
Anhchi Ly, MS, Health Coach/Behavioral Health Clinician